Welcome to Hope House's May 2019 Community Education E-bulletin!
In Memory of Tetiana Huzhva, 23, of Wisconsin Dells
Hope House is deeply saddened by the news in early April of a domestic violence homicide in our service area. We know it can happen at any time, yet we know we must always be working diligently to help keep people safe and promote a peaceful life for all. Our thoughts are with all that knew Tetiana. We are so sorry for your loss. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, you are not alone. Hope House's 24-hour, confidential helpline is 608-356-7500 or 1-800-584-6790. We are here to listen and to provide emotional support and resources.
You're invited! Please help us spread the word about this informational luncheon on human trafficking.
"What Were You Wearing?" Sexual Assault Survivor Art Installation at UW-Baraboo
Many thanks to UW-Baraboo/Sauk County, Sauk County Health Department, and Health First for partnering with us on bringing the "What Were You Wearing?" Sexual Assault Survivor Art Installation to campus on April 15-26 as part of Sexual Assault Awareness Month. To learn more, view the Channel 3000 article or the Baraboo News Republic article.
Photo credit Baraboo News Republic
Thank You Denim Day Participants!
Thank you to all the organizations, businesses, schools, and churches that participated in Denim Day on April 24 by wearing jeans to show support of sexual assault survivors. Listed below are participants in our area that we're aware of. Together we can start by believing and help end victim-blaming! To see the Baraboo News Republic Article about Denim Day, please click here. To view photos from just some of the participants, please check out our Facebook album here.
Paschen Orthodontics and Dental Associates of Baraboo
River Cities Bank in Baraboo and Bank of Prairie du Sac
Culver's Franchise System in Prairie du Sac
Baraboo Chapter of PEO
Police Departments in Lake Delton, Mauston, Reedsburg, and Portage
Marquette County Courthouse
Sauk & Columbia County Sheriff's Offices
Wisconsin Dells School District and River Valley Middle School in Spring Green
St. Peter's Lutheran Church in Shennington and St. Stephen's Lutheran Church in Camp Douglas
QTI in Baraboo
Therapy Without Walls in Reedsburg
Madison College in Reedsburg and Portage and UW-Baraboo/Sauk County
Columbia and New Lisbon Correctional Institute
On Denim Day, Hope House was at Sauk Prairie High School during lunch sharing resources and inviting students to write supportive messages for survivors of sexual assault, which the school agreed to display in their commons area. Thank you to the over 30 students who took time to write a message!
Four of our staff participated in the End Violence Against Women International (EVAWI) Conference. Shown here are two of our advocates, Elizabeth and Anna, with Mark Alesia (reporter who broke the Larry nassar case), Rachel Denhollander (victim of Larry Nassar who approached the media), Henny Russell (actress on Orange is the New Black, Law and Order SVU), and Ashley Jordyn (actress on Orange is the New Black).
For the last week and a half of April, Hope House had a blue pinwheel display with yard signs in our front yard for Child Abuse Prevention Month (CAPM). Thank you to the public libraries in Wisconsin Dells, Reedsburg, and Sauk City for having our CAPM displays with materials for community members to take home.
Program Supplies: Reusable Grocery Bags, Clear Elmer’s Glue
Miscellaneous: Shower Caddies, Tissues, Deodorant, Full-size Fitted and Flat Sheets
Clothing for Women: Shorts (All sizes), Yoga Pants (Small and Medium), Pajama Pants (All sizes), Flip Flops (All sizes), Size 6 Underwear, Size 2X Leggings or Yoga Pants
Clothing for Men: Jeans (All sizes), T-shirts and Sweatshirts (All sizes), Pajama pants (All sizes), Flip Flops (All sizes)
Children: Tops and bottoms (size 5T and up), Flip Flops (All sizes), Backpacks: Full-sized Solid Colored
Hope House also accepts used cell phones, smartphones, iPods, and iPads as we send them to a recycling center to later be used as 911 cell phones and receive a cash donation.
Donations can be dropped off at 720 Ash Street in Baraboo. Questions? Please call us at 608-356-9123. Thank you!
Please note that at this time we are not accepting stuffed animals/plush toys, used toys, used books, clothes (except for what's listed above), shoes, TVs, bar soap, furniture, or travel-size bottles of shampoo, conditioner, body wash, or lotion. We encourage those looking to donate travel-size items to donate them to the Backpack Project. The Backpack Project strives to provide Baraboo School District students who are financially challenged to enter the school doors on the first day "just like everyone else" and to show these children the community supports and encourages them to learn and do their best. Becky Hovde is the contact, and she can be reached at 608-963-8230 or Hivebiz65@gmail.com.
Sexual Assault News
New Law Would Standardize Sexual Assault Evidence Collection: “State legislators propose a new bill to standardize existing practices for collecting sexual assault evidence kits, which has received bipartisan support. Breaking down what this means for survivors and first responders is Ian Henderson of the Wisconsin Coalition Against Sexual Assault. He says the lack of uniformity has created uncertainty in what information sexual assault survivors are given”…Watch the WPR video here
Native American Women Are Facing a Crisis: Three senators are hoping to combat what they see as an overlooked epidemic: missing, murdered and trafficked women.: “Cortez Masto told HuffPo that she believed the bill would help federal agencies improve and quicken their response by focusing on why these women and girls are disappearing and where those who are being trafficked are going — as well as on how to collect data and educate law enforcement on sex trafficking and start prosecuting offenders”…Read more
Fighting Sex Trafficking at the Truck Stop: “Many are runaways or otherwise in dire straits, lured by someone who buys them a meal and shows them what seems like kindness — until that benefactor says, ‘Now you owe me.’ They are kept from leaving by threats and beatings, but probably more often by mental and emotional coercion. Most pimps are not strangers but intimate partners. And many sex trafficking victims are male. L.G.B.T.Q. boys and men are particularly vulnerable…Instead of street encounters, appointments are increasingly made through texts, apps and social media. But the truck stop is an exception. ‘In certain hot spot areas you pretty much see it every day,’…‘Horror and outrage fall off dramatically when the victim is an adult,’ Kylla Lanier, a co-founder of T.A.T., wrote in an editorial on the organization’s website: Don’t see the number 18 as the cutoff to your compassion, she pleaded”…Read more
Measuring #MeToo: A National Study on Sexual Harassment and Assault: “What we found is that even in a self-reported survey, very few people have ever been accused of sexual harassment or assault compared with those who have said they perpetrated it and especially compared with the many people who said they have experienced it. By and large, when people say they experienced sexual harassment or assault, they are telling the truth”…Read the report
A Surviving R. Kelly Follow-Up Exploring The Documentary’s Influence Is On The Way: “The two-hour special will be hosted by Soledad O’Brien and premiere Saturday, May 4 at 10 p.m. ET, according to Variety. It will explore the impact the original documentary had on culture and conversation around sexual violence and being a survivor”…Read more
Shonda Rhimes Fought Back Against ABC When Making This “Grey’s Anatomy” Episode About Sexual Assault: “But the ones we got on this script included, ‘Please don’t show any fluid on the Q-tips’ and ‘Please don’t show any body fluids under the blue lights,’ Vernoff told the Hollywood Reporter. But Rhimes, who created the show back in 2005, fought back and defended the script the way it was written, according to Vernoff. ‘Shonda wrote back a pretty passionate response of the myriad ways that networks are willing to show actual violence but that what we were doing here was the medical process that happens in the wake of violence and they were trying to tell us we couldn’t show it,’”…Read more
Domestic Violence News
Teen Dating Violence Can Lead To Homicide — And Girls Are The Most Common Victims: “The study found that of the more than 2,000 adolescents killed between 2003 and 2016, nearly 7 percent — 150 teens — were killed by their current or former intimate partners. Ninety percent of the victims were female, and their average age was around 17 years old...‘People think that intimate partner violence among adolescents is less serious than among adults,’ says study author Avanti Adhia, an epidemiologist at the University of Washington School Of Medicine. ‘It's important to highlight that this can really lead to death. It's not something to brush off as 'This is just an argument between kids’”…Read more
1 In 5 Wisconsin Teens Report Having Experienced Some Form Of Dating Violence: “Stephanie Ortiz, director of prevention and outreach at End Domestic Abuse Wisconsin, said 2 out of 3 teens never tell an adult when they experience dating violence, but they are more likely to tell a friend. ‘One way that we try to get around that ... is really encouraging young people to be that trusted person in their friends' lives,’ she said. ‘So that they're feeling ready to respond to their friends when they’re in situations like this, so they are able to recognize that earlier on.’ Abusive relationships rarely begin that way, Warner said. For example, it may start out as small comments about clothing that eventually increases to controlling behavior that includes getting physically or verbally angry”…Read more
A Barrier Removed: New Federal Legislation Addresses Pets of Abuse Victims: “The PAWS legislation, which passed with bipartisan support and was enacted on Dec. 20, 2018, expands federal protections for abuse victims by adding three provisions to the federal codes related to stalking, domestic abuse protection orders, and the restitution a victim of domestic abuse may receive for the past abuse”…Read more
Domestic Violence Connection Missing in Many Child Welfare News Stories, Study Says: “That matters because of the way the media can shift the dialogue on these issues, according to the researchers. ‘News coverage also sets the agenda for public policy debates. Journalists’ decisions about which issues to cover can raise the profile of a topic, whereas topics not covered by news media may remain outside public dialogue and policy debate,’”…Read more
Why I work the domestic violence helpline: Men have a responsibility to pick up the pieces: “In fact, many of the callers found it validating to speak with a man to confirm what they already know: Real men don’t abuse their partners. Real men don’t threaten, hit or coerce their partners by weaponizing children, money or possessions to terrorize or manipulate the people they say they love. Domestic violence is not just physical abuse but can consist of many actions that have a singular purpose of controlling another person’s behavior. Some of the most insidious forms of domestic violence are subtly targeted for an audience of one. The man who kept two bullets in his pocket and when he became upset would rattle them, so they clicked together in a sound that was unnoticed by most but was an unmistakable message to his victim”…Read more
Parents' & Youth Service Providers' Section
Boys will be boys? How schools can be guilty of gender bias: “What teachers have to get past, he says, is the belief that if a boy doesn’t comply, doesn’t hand in homework or is misbehaving, that it’s because he’s male. ‘We need to stop ourselves: because maybe whatever is going on isn’t, after all, because he’s a boy. And it’s that realisation that can free pupils from stereotypes, and give them the chance to do what everyone wants, which is truly fulfil their potential’”…Read more
Register for PACER's ALL IN—A free year-long educator resource: “ALL IN provides educators with free, easy to implement, year-long online classroom resources designed to create environments in which every student is INcluded, Involved, and Invested in preventing and addressing bullying. This online module provides everything needed for an adult presenter in a classroom or community organization to deliver information—through instruction, engagement, and peer interaction—on addressing and preventing bullying at school, online, and in the community.” Register for ALL-IN
Training & Resources
The Paths to Healing Conference in Madison on June 21 is a conference focused on adult survivors of child sexual assault, with a focus on male survivors. The 2019 conference will feature Nathan Spiteri, actor, filmmaker and survivor. Learn more at their Facebook event or register here.
Free Guide to Bystander Intervention: Sign up to receive Hollaback’s free guide to bystander intervention. Enter your email address and receive a new tactic every day for the next five days that will teach you how to safely intervene the next time you see harassment. Sign up here
Hope House of South Central Wisconsin 720 Ash Street/P.O. Box 557, Baraboo, WI 53913 24-Hour Confidential Helpline: 608-356-7500 or 1-800-584-6790 Resource Center: 608-356-9123 www.HopeHouseSCW.org